Whats wrong with my BF?

Sounds like he's not feeling much like a man. A man needs to provide for himself and his family (you), and being that he's jobless and living with your family... he's in a rut. Therefore he's lashing out on anything that pisses him off because he's emotionally depressed and insecure right now. The only thing he has control over is his relationship with you. Thats why he's being a jerk and saying "you have no say" and "when I say you have to get out, get out". I don't know exactly what to tell you about your relationship. I'd say give it time, but with his behavior I just don't know I don't think I'd personally stick around. He may be upset but that doesn't give him the right to say whatever he wants. What happens 6 years from now when he loses his job or something stressful comes along, you gonna let him talk to you that way or kick you out? In the long run, what's gonna make you happy? You don't want someone thats gonna walk all over you or use you